Complete Guide: How to Use a Dildo for Beginners

If you've ever wondered how to use a dildo correctly but don't know where to start, you've come to the right place. Whether you want to explore yourself or incorporate it with your partner, this sex toy can provide pleasurable experiences if you know how to use it properly. In this complete guide, you'll learn everything you need to know about types, materials, techniques, and usage tips.

What types of dildos exist and how to choose the right one?

Before learning how to use a dildo, it's essential to know the different types available to choose the one that best suits your needs:

External Vibrators

Designed specifically for external stimulation, these dildos are ideal for beginners. They can be used on the clitoris, labia, and vulva, or any erogenous zone of the body.

Among the most popular, we find:

• Wand vibrators: With round heads that cover a larger surface and offer powerful vibrations.
• Bullet vibrators: Small, discreet, and perfect for travel or carrying in your purse.

Internal Vibrators

These dildos are designed for vaginal or anal penetration. Many can also be used externally, though it doesn't always work the other way around.

Important features:

• Vary in size and shape depending on their purpose
• Some have a curved shape or bulbous ends to stimulate the G-spot
• Important: Anal toys should always have a flared base or rings to prevent them from being fully suctioned in

Dual Vibrators

Also known as rabbit vibrators due to their shape, these are designed to provide internal and external stimulation simultaneously. They feature an angled external arm to stimulate the clitoris while the main part is inserted internally.

Materials: Which to choose to use your dildo safely?

The material of your dildo directly influences its feel, maintenance, and safety:

• Medical-grade silicone: This is the most recommended material because it is hypoallergenic, soft to the touch, and easy to clean.
• Glass and metal: Less common but durable, easy to clean, and allow for temperature play.
• Materials to avoid: Those that contain phthalates, potentially harmful chemicals often found in soft plastic or jelly-like toys.

Important tip: Always verify that your dildo is made from safe, phthalate-free, and non-porous materials to ensure your intimate health.

How to use a dildo step by step

Now that you know the types and materials, let's get to the important part: how to properly use a dildo to maximize your pleasure and safety.

1. Familiarize yourself with your dildo

Carefully read the instructions that come with your toy. This will allow you to understand its functions, controls for turning it on, off, and changing speeds or vibration modes.

2. Prepare for the experience

Create a relaxed and stimulating atmosphere with appropriate lighting, music, and any elements that help you feel comfortable. Prior arousal will allow your body to produce natural lubrication, especially important if you plan to use the dildo internally.

3. Use adequate lubricant

Lubricant is essential when using a dildo, even if you produce natural lubrication. Toys can generate heat that reduces moisture, and dry friction can irritate sensitive skin.

Types of lubricants:

• Water-based: Compatible with all materials and easy to clean.
• Silicone-based: Lasts longer but should not be used with silicone toys.
• Oil-based: Not recommended with latex condoms or toys made of porous materials.

4. Start slowly

If you are going to use your dildo for penetration, especially for anal penetration, go slowly and allow your body to get used to it. For vaginal penetration, you can start with your fingers if it's your first time. For anal penetration, use plenty of lubricant and start with toys designed specifically for beginners.

5. Experiment with settings

Most modern dildos offer various vibration and intensity settings. Start with the lowest levels and gradually increase until you find what you like best. Don't rush to the maximum level; enjoy exploring the sensations.

6. Use a barrier if you are sensitive

If you find that even the gentlest vibrations are too intense, you can place a barrier such as underwear or a thin towel between the dildo and your body to reduce the intensity.

Tips for using a dildo with a partner

Incorporating a dildo into couple's play can add a new dimension to your sex life:

• Communication: Talk openly with your partner about your desires and intentions before introducing the toy.
• Explore positions: Some positions facilitate the use of the dildo during sex, such as missionary position or reverse cowgirl for clitoral stimulation.
• Take turns: You can take turns using the dildo on each other, which adds an element of play and mutual discovery.

If you are looking for options especially designed for couple's play, you can explore the collection of couple's sex toys which include remote-controlled options or those designed for mutual pleasure.

Hygiene and safety measures

Proper cleaning and maintenance of your dildo are fundamental for your health and to extend the product's lifespan:

Cleaning after each use

Clean your dildo after each use with warm water and mild antibacterial soap. For a deeper clean, use specific sex toy cleaners according to the manufacturer's recommendations.

Using condoms with your dildo

Consider using condoms with your dildo in these situations:

• If you share the toy with someone outside of a monogamous relationship
• If you plan to use the same toy for vaginal and anal stimulation (change the condom between uses)
• To facilitate cleaning, especially with toys that have complex textures

Proper storage

Store your dildo in a clean, dry place, preferably in a specific sex toy storage bag. This prevents dust accumulation and protects the material.

Common problems when using a dildo and how to solve them

Even with the best preparation, some inconveniences may arise:

• Discomfort or pain: If you feel pain, stop immediately. You may need more lubricant, a different size, or to take it more slowly.
• Difficulty reaching orgasm: Experiment with different angles, speeds, and pressures. Remember that getting to know your body takes time.
• Excessive noise: If discretion is important, look for models specifically designed to be quiet or use the dildo under the covers to muffle the sound.

For beginners, we recommend starting with simple models such as those from the collection of basic vibrators or suction toys which are intuitive and easy to use.

Conclusion

Learning how to use a dildo correctly is a process of personal discovery that can significantly enrich your intimate life. The most important thing is to take your time, listen to your body, and not be afraid to experiment until you find what is most pleasurable for you.

Remember that everyone is different, and what works for others may not work for you. With patience, proper lubricant, and an open attitude, you will soon discover how to maximize the pleasure these toys can offer, whether alone or with company.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is it normal to feel discomfort the first time I use a dildo?

Some initial discomfort is normal, especially if it's your first experience with sex toys. Make sure to use enough lubricant, start with low speeds, and allow your body to adapt. If discomfort persists or is painful, stop and consider trying a smaller size or a different type of toy.

How often should I change or replace my dildo?

It depends on the material and quality. High-quality silicone dildos can last several years with proper care. You should replace your dildo if you notice cracks, color changes, strange odors, or if the material becomes sticky, which indicates degradation.

Can I use my dildo during menstruation?

Yes, it is safe to use a dildo during menstruation. In fact, some people find that masturbation helps relieve menstrual cramps. For greater comfort and hygiene, consider using a condom over the dildo or cleaning it immediately after use.