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Dear La Pepa — I've Never Had an Orgasm with a Partner. Am I Broken?

A reader letter on never having had a partnered orgasm — what's actually going on, why it's far more common than people think, and the four-week reset that fixes it for most.

Dear La Pepa: My Girlfriend Wants to Peg Me and I'm Quietly Terrified

A reader writes in about his girlfriend's pegging request and his own nervous system. Our reply — what's normal, what helps, and how to know if you're a yes, a no, or a not-yet.

Voice Notes Are the New Sexting: Why 2026 Went Audio-First

Voice-note sexting overtook text sexting for under-35s in 2026 — why audio works better, how to send a good one, and what to think about before you hit record.

The Compersion Conversation: When Monogamous Couples Borrow a Word From Polyamory

"Compersion" — a word from polyamory for joy at a partner's pleasure with someone else — has been quietly drifting into monogamous couples' vocabulary in 2026. What the borrowing means, and what it...

Dear La Pepa: My Partner Won't Try a Toy

Three composite letters from readers whose partners shut down the toy conversation — and the practical, non-coercive replies we'd send back.

Dear La Pepa: 'I Faked It for Years — How Do I Walk It Back?'

Three composite reader letters on faking orgasms — why people do it, what it costs, and exactly how to start telling the truth without blowing up the relationship.

Know your partner sexually: the keys to real intimacy

A practical guide to getting to know your partner sexually — the conversations that matter, how to ask about preferences without pressure, aftercare, solving desire mismatches, and the habits that ...

How to bring up sex toys with your partner (without making it weird)

A practical script for suggesting sex toys to your partner — when to bring it up, how to frame it, the objections that come up and how to handle them, plus the toys that make the easiest first step.